Comments on: The Wisdom of Solomon

By: In my dreams « So much to say, so little time

In my dreams « So much to say, so little time — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 13:28:57 +0000

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By: So much to say, so little time

So much to say, so little time — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 13:28:08 +0000

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By: fillforsix

fillforsix — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 14:56:35 +0000

Thanks Kathleen. That helps a lot more than you know.

By: ckbasi

ckbasi — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 02:44:30 +0000

Amy, I am so sorry you had to go through that. Those are exactly the kinds of blanket generalizations in black and white that cause so much heartache in the universe.

By: Sunday Snippets « So much to say, so little time

Sunday Snippets « So much to say, so little time — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 01:19:56 +0000

[...] http://kathleenbasi.com/2009/10/16/the-wisdom-of-solomon/, a reflection on being tugged in too many directions; and [...]

By: fillforsix

fillforsix — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 00:41:42 +0000

I realize we’ve moved on here, but I just have to share that a woman I know through church – so, yes, a Catholic – just told me today that she always thought it was selfish if people waited more than two years between each child. Needless to say, I’ve been feeling hurt all day because I can only wonder what she thinks of me only having one… I couldn’t help but think of our blog conversation here.

By: fillforsix

fillforsix — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:23:27 +0000

Totally. I was listening to Catholic radio a few months back when they were talking about good comebacks for people with large families. I was surprised and pleased that at the end they mentioned that there is also no room to judge people with small families. They said it isn’t fair to assume that big family = less worldly and small family = more worldly. Soon after that I was talking to a pharmacist who was expecting his sixth child. I could sense his hesitation in telling me that. My own sense of ‘Oh God, I am such a loser that I can’t even have two!’ was interrupted by thoughts of that show, and I surprised him by saying, “How exciting!” He was taken aback and said, “Yeah! It is exciting!”

By: ckbasi

ckbasi — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:17:30 +0000

And the other thing I need to remember is that lots of people have *very* good reasons for having small families, even if the reason isn’t obvious to me. This is supposed to be between parents and God, not between parents and the judgmental world. It goes both ways, for both small and large families.

By: fillforsix

fillforsix — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:03:10 +0000

Parts of this post remind me of my ‘Lesson’ post from Wednesday! See, and you talking about women who are ‘more suited to motherhood’ and you feeling like you have all you can handle at times totally resonates with the way I feel – except that I’m the small family that you feel irritated with sometimes. I think you have the right insight though – I chose one for so many years because it was honestly all I could possibly handle… without medication. I harbor a sense of failure and weakness because I have only had to raise one for the past six years…

I’m glad you broke out of that ‘crazy’ cycle from the last few days. It always feels good to get off that path. I’m glad you included pictures of your tent!

By: Kelley

Kelley — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 13:15:30 +0000

I miss you guys! We should get together…