Seven Quick Takes

1. I always love to see what search parameters bring up my blog on search engines. Usually it’s boring stuff: “Kate Basi blog” and so on, but this one cracked me up: “pic of big butt tinkerbell”

2. My baby sister recently sold her Ford Focus, which has seen better days, into service as a crazy 8 race car. As I have never heard of such a thing, I’m betting you haven’t either. Allow yourself to be illuminated, via YouTube.

3. Have I ever shared how much I loathe playing? (Kind of a big occupational hazard of SAH motherhood, but there it is. Even when I was a kid, I was a climb-a-tree-and-read-a-book-worm.) So I cringe every time Alex says, “Mommy, will you play with me?” But today, he was entertaining himself very nicely in the living room with scissors, construction paper and tape, building a “Joker Ski” (as in jet ski). Until he leaned back dramatically and said, “Mommy, you can help me finish my Joker Ski if you want to.” Translation: Mommy get your butt out here I’m tired of doing this and I want you to finish it for me. Voila the Joker Ski:

En garde, Robin! Hehehehehehehe!

 Are you impressed? You should be!

4. While we’re on the subject of funny kid moments, last Sunday Christian went to a Cardinals game to meet a friend he hasn’t seen in years. Because of this, I got to experience single parenthood for about twelve hours. At church. Playing piano. On a choir day. All through Mass, I was trying to play the piano while Alex grabbed my left arm and whisper-shrieked, “Mommy! The number didn’t work!” (he was running the electronic number board)  and waving his hand in front of the mirror-shiny Yamaha piano cover and batting at the end of the boom microphone stand I was singing into. It was very distracting. After Mass, one of our choir members went to pick the little ones up from the nursery and came back with the classic frazzled mother expression on her face, gasping, “I don’t know how you do this!”

5. Nicholas fell asleep on the way home. I took him inside and set him down on the floor, went out to unload the cargo, and came back in to find this:

It was a tiring morning. Obviously.

6. Which was soon followed by this:


Only she’s not sleeping. She’s giggling. With her bottom going up and down.

7. Joy to the World: Advent is for Families is officially available!  

If you have kids, if you’ve ever been frustrated by December madness, if you’ve ever thought, “Surely there must be SOME way to enjoy the fun stuff in December without going crazy and forgetting about the sacred!”, then this book is for you. At $5.99 for a resource that will last you the rest of your family’s life, it’s a steal. Check it out!

Published in: on July 22, 2010 at 6:10 pm  Comments (5)  

7 Quick Takes, vol. 83

1. Last night I started a Wilton cake decorating class. It’s very interesting to see how, uh, passionate, people get on the subject. Myself included. There could have been a knock-down, drag-out fight over icing recipes in the aisle of Michael’s last night, but we all managed to control ourselves. :)

2. As far as I’m concerned, the greatest mystery of cake decorating is this: How do you make that icing you actually WANT to eat? Turns out, that’s not on the syllabus. Because “we’re not making things people are actually going to eat,” someone said, and my jaw hit the floor. Uh…color me weird, but I do expect people to eat what I make…otherwise what’s the point?

3. But here’s the part I really don’t understand. As I asked questions about icing, the instructor gave me this confused look and said, “No, this isn’t the icing you use to frost the cake. I mean, you can, but no, when you go buy your box mix” (!!!!!) “you just pick up the can of frosting that goes with it.” (!!!!!!!!!)

And fully ¾ of the class nodded their heads.

4. Call me crazy, but I just don’t get it. You’re buying expensive products like specialty sugar, meringue powder, and concentrated gel colors to make from scratch an icing to make extremely fancy roses, shells, etc. And then you BUY PREMADE ICING to put on a BOX CAKE????? Am I the only one who thinks this is just a little bit, uh, inconsistent?

5. So folks, do any of my esteemed readers know how to make that awesome icing that I could eat all day? They seem to do it at Gerbes and Hy Vee…I keep asking all my cake making friends their recipes, so maybe someday I’ll stumble on one I can’t live without.

6. Okay, I’ll move on with life now. This essay, called “last one picked,” is a telling reflection on that horrifying 80-90% abortion rate for kids with Down’s.

7. And, to end the day on an up note, my book is in the queue. Joy to the World: Advent Activities for your Family is scheduled for release on July 31!

Yes, we’re ahead of the season, but the key to having a restful, rather than stressful, December is planning. It’s not too early to be thinking! JttW is short, and better still, it’s only $6. If you have a young family, I hope you’ll order one and join us in discussion here this December!

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Florida Reflections: What I Learned About Taking Three Small Children to the Magic Kingdom for One Day

We spent last week on Longboat Key, Florida with the Basi family, and since we were so close, Christian and I decided to try a Magic Kingdom trip with the kids for one day. We went with some trepidation about the long day, but it turned out to be perhaps the highlight of the trip.

First, though, let me say that I first visited Disney in 1980, when I was not quite five years old. This was me:

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My big sis Tam, cousin Laura, me (in red checks) and cousin Chrissy, Disneyland 1980--their big birthday party

In this case, it was Disneyland, not Disney World. In fact, last week was my first DW trip, and somehow it didn’t seem as magical as it did when I was 5, 7, and 12 in California….though that’s probably 90% age-related! Still, as I looked back through the slides of that first trip to find the picture, I saw things that were totally different, (and better), about California. Things like the outdoor approach to Small World, and Storybook Land, which DW doesn’t have. And it makes me anxious to go back to California to see what is and isn’t still there.

But I digress. Here is what I learned at Disney World last Tuesday, December 29th, 2009:

1. Staying at one of the resorts is worth every penny. We stayed at the second-lowest tier of resort—the Caribbean Beach. A pirate room, they told him, to which Christian rolled his eyes and said, yeah right. Until we opened the door to this:

2. Reason #2 it’s worth it to say at the resort: you get access to the park an hour ahead of everyone else. Thus, on December 29th at 6:55 a.m., we were walking down Main Street USA:

And before the sun rose, we had ridden Dumbo…

…and Peter Pan twice each. We were also really cold, which leads me to…

3. Just because it’s going to be what I would call “spring” weather in Florida does not mean a jacket is enough coverage! And don’t forget the blanket for the baby, who lost three socks in the Magic Kingdom, and had to spend much of the early & late hours of the day in arms, with jacket pulled around him, to keep him warm.

4. On a related note, my b-i-l told us to freeze bottles of water and bring them along so they’d melt & be cold water all day. This is a terrific idea—when it’s 95 degrees outside. When it’s 45-60, mostly you just have ice all day.

5. People are essentially lazy on vacation, which means that those of us who are willing to get up without enough sleep have a big advantage in enjoying the park. It didn’t get crowded till lunchtime, and after that it took twenty minutes to cross from one world to another through the castle square.

6. Speaking of sleep… I learned that children are capable of sleeping in the unlikeliest of positions:

Let’s take a closer look at that, shall we?

7. It is possible to enjoy Disney even when there are 75,000 people in the park.

8. The place is mind-boggling. I can’t imagine the sheer acreage owned by the corporation. Disney claims every exit for five miles along I-4. Epcot, Downtown Disney, Animal Kingdom—they have their own exits. Widely-spaced exits. When we got off the highway, we took the first left (into the Wyndham) to get directions to our hotel, which wasn’t where it was supposed to be. After turning INTO the Wyndham resort, we drove 1 ½ miles of completely undeveloped land (two lanes each direction) before we reached t he GUARD HOUSE. And when we got on the shuttle to go to the park, we drove for FIFTEEN MINUTES of largely unincorporated acreage. What are they planning to DO with all that land???

9. Last, but not least…We were told, but I had forgotten, that families with disabled kids get preferential treatment for rides. Probably I forgot because to me, we really don’t qualify. Julianna’s a slow developer, that’s all.  It’s not like she can’t walk.

But late in the afternoon, while Christian & Alex stood in a 50-minute line to drive race cars, I took the little ones on the carousel. After that we still had half an hour, so I thought we’d go check out Small World. But that line was 40 minutes long, so I was walking away when the woman I’d asked came running after me. “Does your daughter have Down syndrome?” she asked. “You should never wait in a line. You can get this pass and they’ll let you in the wheelchair entrance.”

Well…okay. I went and talked to the woman manning the wheelchair entrance for Small World, and before I knew it, we’d gone from a 40 minute wait to straight down the ramp and onto the next boat.

After Alex & I used our “fast passes” to ride Peter Pan one last time, we went to inquire, and came back with a pass that says you can use your stroller as a wheelchair. Meaning you can take it in with you and park it where the park staff is helping people load and unload. That may sound piddly, but that is a BIG perk. Otherwise you have to park it and haul anything valuable with you. Not to mention, they put you on pretty much as soon as you get there, meaning you bypass the entire line.

We used the pass twice more. The park staff were all very nice about it, though some were more suspicious than others. Particularly at the Buzz Lightyear ride. I felt really bad about that one, actually. I didn’t even want to ride the stinking thing again—totally not my thing to shoot lights at batteries while holding a baby on my lap. Julianna had no interest, either—but the only way to get in quickly was if she came along. So while other people waited for 80-90 minutes, we zipped through in about 15. It felt like a gross abuse of the privilege, especially since they put me in my own car. They could’ve loaded two people through who actually WANTED to shoot light bulbs at batteries.

It’s great that Disney is accommodating families with special needs kids. I think they meant it for people with conditions like c.p.—kids who physically can’t get in the car without help. We saw that several times—people being lifted, carried, onto the moving walkways, placed in the cars like a small child. It was just so clear that, at least in this case, we have it so much better.

Disney at Christmastime is lovely, so I’ll leave you with more pictures, and if you are really interested, here’s a link to my Facebook album, which has the whole trip on it.

Here is me with Pluto, 1980:

…and my family with Pluto, 2009:

Published in: on January 3, 2010 at 10:04 am  Comments (8)  
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Thursday Motherhood Moment

Motherhood Moments

I originally wrote this last year, but when I ran across it the other day, it seemed too good a Motherhood Moment not to repost:

Christmas is not about kids, but I will admit that having a child has enriched my experience of the season. It seems odd to say this now, considering it’s my fourth Christmas as a parent. But, although little ones may like pretty lights and enjoy ripping packages (down with gift bags!), they don’t grow into the anticipation for several years.

For the last two days, Alex has been dragging a purple knit slipper/stocking around the house, full of shape sorter blocks and matchbox cars, and telling us he is Santa Claus. Before lunch, he demanded that I write him a letter. I was painting gingerbread ornaments, so I put him off till after nap. After nap, I managed to put him off while we applied glitter, glue and sequins to the ornaments. But at last he walked up to me holding Julianna’s Doodle pro. “Mommy, here,” he said in a tone that brooked no refusal. “Write me a letter!”

Well, OK, then. I scribbled a “letter” and put it, as per his instructions, in front of the fireplace. When we wrote his Santa letter last week, it was snowing, and Christian told him that meant Santa could collect the letter from the chimney. I think the urgency yesterday was because in the aftermath of a minor ice storm, everything looks like it’s covered with snow.

At any rate, I put the letter in its appropriate place and returned to the ornaments, followed by making dinner. Along about 5:10 p.m., Santa decided it was time to make his delivery. But I wasn’t allowed to “sleep” in the kitchen while I worked on dinner. I had to lie down—only not on the couch, because he was going to come quietly through the house, and it wouldn’t be quiet if I was snoring. He told me to go in the office and lie on the green area rug. At 6 months pregnant I just couldn’t stomach the thought of lying on the floor and having to struggle back to my feet. So I promised I wouldn’t snore.  

Alex accepted the compromise, and I went to “sleep” on he little couch while he worked. Julianna thought this was very interesting. She cruised along the couch and began to bat at my face. Alex came and took her away twice. (Yes, he can carry her. Can, and does. Frequently.) “Julianna, leave Mommy alone! She has to stay asleep!” (You can see that all the elements of the Santa mystique are firmly in place.)

I was beginning to wonder if I was going to be ensconced on the couch until I grew cobwebs when Alex finally whispered, “Okay, Mommy, wake up!” He had two neat rows of blocks and cars laid out on the floor for me, and he was more excited about this game than he was last year when he found his train set laid out on Christmas morning. It was very cute.

In my last post, I mentioned that Friday evening we helped sort food and gifts as part of our parish “Giving Tree” program. Alex was game for sorting food and putting together grocery bags, but he really lit up when we began pulling gifts out of the closet and placing them in the appropriate places in the parish hall. He was so excited that he wouldn’t wait his turn in line. He kept rushing into the closet, where Christian was working, and emerging with gifts. We were half delighted and half ashamed. How do you scold such enthusiasm—yet how can you not scold butting in line? Watching his joy in the experience tugged at my heartstrings.

Published in: on December 31, 2009 at 5:22 am  Leave a Comment  

That Sneaky Old Christmas Spirit

It sneaks up on me sometimes…usually when I haven’t had a chance to think it out of existence. Like today, for instance. I won’t bore you with the miles-long list of things that have to be done by tomorrow at 5p.m. Let’s just say that by 10a.m. today, I had accomplished more than I usually accomplish in a whole day. If I’d had time to think about it, I would not have expected today to be one of those heart-squeezing, teary-eyed Christmas Eve’s. Especially after we arrived at church to discover that one of the members of the parish music ministry passed away very unexpectedly…today, I think.

But somewhere, along about here…

Choir Babies, Nicholas & O.

…I found myself smiling. And when I saw the boys entertaining themselves while we warmed up…

Wow! We actually get to play with TOYS at church? It MUST be a special occasion!

…I had to laugh. And by the time we had raised the roof with “Angels We Have Heard on High” and “O Come All Ye Faithful” (piano, drums, two guitars, bass, trumpet, trombone and thirty singers), the magic had happened. My heart was full–open–overflowing.

The Contemporary Group singers

That's me on the left, conducting from the flute

I asked Alex to take pictures during the Gloria. It was hot, and he was sleepy, so he didn’t last long. These were the two most useful of his dozen snapshots. ;) And when he decided he was finished, he came across the aisle and shoved the camera at me. Luckily, I was playing three notes in a row that only required the left hand, so I was able to grab it without creating a scene.

There were these moments, during “What Child is This?”…

One of four married couples in our choir...aren't we blessed?

Our fearless percussionist. No, he's not Santa...at least, I don't think so!

And there was my husband, working seamlessly with me to lead the music…

The love of my life...wearing his early Christmas gift (the tie)

So that by the time Mass was over, all the irritations of the day were past, and I–as well as my children–were ready to be a family. 

And this evening, as I put the little ones to bed and folded laundry, I listened to Christian and Alex playing computer games at NORADSanta.com, and I had to smile at my boys. What other night of the year would Alex shout, “Hurry, Daddy! Hurry! Santa’s almost here! I have to get to bed!”
Christmas is off to a beautiful start.
Published in: on December 24, 2009 at 9:31 pm  Comments (5)  

7 quick takes

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1. Last Sunday afternoon at nap time, I tiptoed down the hallway with a sleeping baby and stood in the doorway of the little ones’ room, watching my husband read “The Littlest Angel” to Alex and Julianna. As he read the last three sentences, I heard his voice change, quiver, and thicken. How can you not adore a guy who chokes up reading a children’s Christmas story?

2. Last Friday I was forced to buy McDonald’s for myself and the kids. (I know, big deal; everybody eats out…but we don’t. And I HATE McDonald’s.) Ten pieces of chicken, two tiny yogurt parfaits, and a bag of fries cost me TWELVE DOLLARS. This reminded me of our trip to the Lake this summer. One morning we paid $16 for breakfast for four at McDonald’s, and were all hungry within two hours. The next day we went to Shoney’s and paid $12 for an all-you-can-eat breakfast buffet. And the food was way better!

3. Last Sunday evening we had a Christmas caroling party. We invited our choir over and went door to door in our neighborhood. This year we asked for canned goods for the local homeless shelter. I expected people to give us one, maybe two cans. Instead, at virtually every house, we got an entire plastic bag’s worth. Our little Radio Flyer wagon couldn’t hold one more can. It was an amazing experience—as you know, I always feel called to do something for the homeless, but I never seem to have the guts.

4. Speaking of choir, yesterday’s Advent Calendar activity was supposed to be a family singalong—but one of our altos set up the choir to sing next to the Salvation Army bell ringers. So we decided to substitute one singalong for another. Last year, our Advent Calendar didn’t have enough service opportunities in it…this year, it seems that we have one every other day. I can’t tell you how uplifting it is, especially while I’m working on my Advent book for release next year.

5. “Westward leading, still proceeding.” This was me on Wednesday afternoon, barreling through heavy traffic on I-64, homeward bound, trying to outrun my sleepiness. I was following two tractor trailers, one passing the other, when suddenly the one in the left lane braked hard and jerked over into the right lane, leaving me staring at the rear end of a big orange truck proclaiming, “LEFT LANE CLOSED AHEAD.” And he was … stopping. I had just enough time to make a hard stop, in the left lane of I-64, and thank God nobody ploughed into me. In the half second before I turned to look over my shoulder to try to get around him, ten cars whizzed past in the other lane. By the time the crush eased, there was a long line of honking cars behind me, and those at the back were starting to pull out. At last I realized that the only way I was going to get around was to nose around half over the line. At least the adrenaline rush was good for several minutes. Thank you, IDOT.

6. Speaking of IDOT, I just have to share that every time I see their logo, I think it says IDIOT.

7. This is how we keep our baby entertained (and corralled) while decorating the Christmas tree:

I will be 9 months old tomorrow! Happy birthday to me!

Published in: on December 18, 2009 at 6:04 am  Comments (7)  
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7 Quick Takes Friday–the Christmas Carol edition

1. The local “Christmas station” plays a sometimes-delightful, often appalling mix of cheesy ’80s pop stars (think Hall & Oates “Jingle Bell Rock”), some great Mannheim Steamroller, and several versions of Feliz Navidad and Chestnuts Roasting—but virtually ZERO religious content. This got me thinking about the kids at school. When we would plan our Christmas Mass, and I’d ask them to pick songs, they kept having trouble coming up with sacred songs. Their brains defaulted to “Jingle Bells” and “Santa Claus is Coming To Town.” Why is that, I ask myself? Last year I taught Alex “Away in a Manger,” but this year he’s all about “Rudolph” (see #2) and “Jingle Bells.” Upon further reflection, I came to the conclusion that these songs are easy to learn because they don’t require deep thought to understand, and they’re short. The truly great sacred carols are dense in theology, and the language requires plumbing the depths (see #7).

2. Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. Alex has been learning this for his school concert, and after singing the intro a dozen times for him, it suddenly occurred to me: You know (fill in the blank x 8…) –But DO YOU KNOW the most FAMOUS reindeer of all?????

(Uh…as a matter of fact, no, I knew the eight nobody ever heard of except in a little poem, but I never heard of the famous one, the one that has his own TV special!)

3. Joy to the World. (Liturgy geek alert!) Look through the words to this hymn. What do you NOT see included? Hint: Angels, babies, shepherds, or Magi. This is actually a hymn for the feast of Christ the King. I think this is why it is my favorite Christmas carol of all time. And if it wasn’t so fundamentally tied to Christmas, it would be a spectacular hymn for ten or twelve different Sundays throughout the liturgical year.

4. White Christmas. Every child knows it’s supposed to be snowy at Christmas. But living in Missouri, I have, at length and at last, bowed to the inevitable: white Christmases are few and far between. It’s just not in the climate where I live. In fact, it’s been two years since we had a white anything here. You know that big blizzard that buried the entire middle of the country this week? We got…a dusting. About enough to look like a weak frost. Why is that Christmas and snow have become synonymous? After more reflection, I realized it is because the traditions of American Christmas came from New England, and in New England, y’all do get snow at Christmas. And every other part of the winter.

5. Last year I arranged “I Heard the Bells” for our contemporary group. This was my introduction to the name Johnny Marks. Chances are, you haven’t heard the name either—but it turns out that this Jewish man, who earned a Bronze Star in World War II, wrote a ton of those easy carols that kids learn. He wrote practically the whole score for Rudolph, including Rudolph, A Holly Jolly Christmas, and Silver and Gold, plus Run Rudolph Run, one setting of I Heard the Bells and Rockin’ Around the Christmas Tree.

6. Did you know that there are at least three different tunes for Away in a Manger, and that in the UK, they use a different tune for It Came Upon a Midnight Clear? (This I discovered in looking for choral links for #7.)

7. I used to get annoyed by the archaic language in Christmas carols. At what other time of year would we consent to sing the word “hark”? Especially with an exclamation point after it? You’d get laughed at! But a month post 9/11, I was working on the music schedule for the Christmas season at church, and I actually read the words to “It Came Upon A Midnight Clear,” and I dissolved into tears. Go read them. Listen to them. And see if it doesn’t strike to the heart of life on Earth…then, now, and forevermore.

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Closing Out Christmas

Today, we celebrate the feast of Epiphany, although the actual date is January 6th, not 4th. We marked the day by moving the Wise Men from the front windowsill to the nativity scene. (And playing at church, but that’s just a normal 1st & 3rd Sunday thing.) We are almost the lone hold-outs on our street in keeping the Christmas lights burning—though we’ve been bopping around the Midwest so much that it probably doesn’t look that way to our neighbors.

 

I always feel conflicted when we reach the end of the Christmas season. On the one hand, it’s such a relief to be home—done with long car rides, ready to get back into our routine of therapies, lessons, naps and bedtimes. And yet I feel wistful, too. It reminds me of the days when Mom would take us to the ice rink. After an hour and a half, I was tired and ready to be off the blades. Yet when Mom would call, “Time to go!” I would rush past the entrance for one last dash around the boards.

 

Just so, for the next two or three days, I’ll spend lots of time drinking in the sight of lights, ornaments, beads, garland and bows, dreading the moment when Christian says, “Okay, it’s time.”

 

There’s something so sterile about a house just un-decorated from Christmas. L

 

In the next room, the boys are watching Veggie Tales “Lord of the Bean” while Julianna prowls the base of the Christmas tree. This is making it very hard for me to concentrate. So I’ll just close by sharing with you a link to Einstein Syndrome, whose existence I just found today when Miriam commented here. What a beautiful, thoughtful site. Go check it out.

Published in: on January 4, 2009 at 10:20 pm  Comments (2)  

The Prowler

Julianna whined all the way home from Illinois. She was heartily sick of the car seat. (Who can blame her?)

As soon as we got home, she tore across the floor and went down to the basement to bang on the piano. When her daddy brought her back up and got her diaper (and clothes) changed, she went straight for the Christmas tree.

Now bear in mind, we spent four days in a tiny house with a very touch-friendly Christmas tree (by that I mean one that didn’t have pointy needles). Did she ever touch the tree? Nope. Not once.

So as I sat on the computer, trying to sift through three hundred plus spams, she prowled back and fortharound the tree…south to north, north to south, south to north, north to south…not touching, just stopping every so often to look up suspiciously. Then, back to pacing on all fours. This went on for at least five minutes before she decided Mommy was fooled, and she disappeared behind the tree…and grabbed an ornament.

Ah, Julianna, you are destined to be a Master Spy. I just know it.

I wanted to reflect on the difference between writing fiction about love and love in reality, but I think I need to focus on my family…and unpacking…and folding laundry…tonight.

Published in: on December 29, 2008 at 10:55 pm  Leave a Comment  

Christmas Night

What did the sky look like the night Jesus was born? On that cold night, two millenia before humanity washed out the stars, what kind of celestial masterpiece must have been on display? When the shepherds lived and worked and slept beneath the stars, did they ever look up and fall silent, struck dumb by the vast, mysterious realm of beauty and mystery above them? Or was it so familiar that its wonder faded into the worn fabric of life–something that hardly warranted a second glance? When the glory of all the host of heaven rent the sky, what was it that these humble pastors feared–the angels, or the disruption of their humdrum backdrop? And after the angels left, did they ever look at the stars in the same way again?

The light of security and traffic safety has washed out the sky now, such that we’ve lost the habit of looking up. In the dark, we stare at our feet, sharp on the lookout for anything that might trip us. Even when we escape the aura of city night, we forget to raise our eyes to the heavens. And yet it is built into our inmost being–this wonder, this desire to know what makes the lights in the sky burn. It is one of the first shapes we identify in childhood; its effect is mirrored in lanterns strung and walkways lined; in tinsel fluttering and jewelry polished to perfection–even in the humble ceiling beneath which I sit, the pattern of the cosmos catches the light of chandelier and tosses it back at me.

If we took the time to stop, on these cold, crystal-clear December nights, to embrace the chill and find a place away from the lights, and look up…what message might we hear whispered in our hearts?

Published in: on December 26, 2008 at 5:04 pm  Comments (1)