Kids Sports: It’s (supposed to be) about Respect

Today I’m handing the soapbox over to my husband, who is coaching Little League this year for the first time. As parents, we find the attitude toward kids’ sports disturbing–too focused on winning and creating star players, too little focus on teamwork, character and physical fitness, and not enough playing time for the mid-pack and low-end players.

So Christian decided to make right priorities the centerpiece of his coaching. I want to share the notes he went over with parents via email before the first practice, and with the boys at the first practice.

Playing Catch

Christian Basi speaks on Little League team expectations:

The theme for our summer will be RESPECT:

By our last game, I hope to have instilled in the boys the following ideals/skills:

RESPECT for the game: Every boy will learn the proper skills and fundamentals of the game (including hitting, throwing and catching).

RESPECT for your team (and teammates): Every boy will know what it means to be a good teammate, supporting everyone on the team.

RESPECT for your competitor: I want the boys to recognize good competition and cheer for good baseball. (For example, St. Louis Cardinals fans will often applaud the opposing team when they make a good play. This has always stood out in my mind as the ideal competition – someone who plays hard, but recognizes and respects good competition.)

RESPECT for yourself: I hope to educate the boys on being proud of their hard work while also knowing how to respond to criticism appropriately.

We certainly won’t win every game, but I expect us to have the classiest coaches, players and parents in every game we play. As a parent, if you haven’t done so already, I would encourage you to go online and read “The Matheny Manifesto” – written by St. Louis Cardinals manager Mike Matheny when he was asked to coach a little league team. You can find it here:

I’m working hard to develop good practice drills as we prepare for our first game.

Go Pirates!


Acceptance of players of all abilities

We have a team with players of all abilities. Some of us (the coaches included) are better hitters while others can catch better. Some are going to have “natural” talent, while others have to work harder to learn certain skills. I expect all of us to help each other in whatever way possible. No player or coach will disrespect one another by talking behind their back, calling names or embarrassing them publicly. As a member of our team, if you see a player (or a coach) that needs a little help with a skill, please offer help in a kind way.

  • Never laugh at someone’s inability to do something, because in the next moment, you might be overwhelmed by their ability to achieve a particular goal.
  • Sometimes individuals with the least amount of talent work harder than the rest of the group combined – we can all learn something from that type of work ethic.
  • Everyone deserves to be included and there is a role for everyone. Support those who want to be there.


I expect the boys to give me their absolute best effort at every practice and every game. If they are sick and not feeling well, but feel well enough to be at practice, I will still expect them to be mentally sharp even if they cannot take part in every drill. Otherwise, they should stay at home until they are better.


We will hustle to our warmup spots; we will hustle to our positions with a fast jog. Players who are not ready to make this commitment could face a minor penalty.


I expect every player to arrive on time. Late arrivals are disrespectful to your coaches and your teammates who are ready to go. We will only have approximately one hour to practice on our field. Please be there ready to go at the appointed time.


Each boy is responsible for their glove, hat, any bat they wish to bring and additional gear. This includes water and any snacks. No boy will be allowed to leave the dugout during a game except for the following reasons:

  • Bathroom visit
  • Injury
  • Family emergencies.

I do not want to have the boys talking with parents/grandparents and getting snacks during the games. This leads to a lack of focus and a perception that they are not supporting their teammates. I expect the boys to learn the responsibilities of remembering what they need for a game before it starts.

Parental support

To make this work, I need the support of all the parents. I hope to earn your respect as the season goes forward, but in the beginning, I’m asking for your support. This includes:

  • Umpires – no boy will be allowed to criticize an umpire, either through words or actions. If they do, they will be removed for one inning. It the actions continue, the consequences will be more severe. I have been a certified umpire in 3 states and umpired little league, high school and college-aged (and older) baseball games. For several summers, I also served as the organizer of the umpires. I can assure you there will be bad and missed calls. I expect our team and our fans to be supportive of the umpires. If any criticism is handed to the umpires, I will be the one doing it. Trust me – this is going to take a load off your shoulders. Please note: there is a significant penalty for the head coach and the entire team if a parent harasses an umpire.

  • Cheering – please support your boys through appropriate cheers. Many experts have said that the quieter you are about your son, the less pressure they feel. (Again, see The Matheny Manifesto for more information) I will be the first to admit that this has been very difficult for me to learn, so we’re all in this together.  I want the boys to enjoy the summer, and this means not demonstrating that we think they will be the ones to be a major league draft pick 10 years from now.

I hope you understand my goals and expectations for the team. I’m looking forward to coaching the boys this spring. Please let me know if you have any concerns.