How Can You Be Emotionally Healthy If You Empty Yourself?

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On any given day, this blog is my go-to place to wrestle with questions that trouble me and offer what little insight I have. But today I would like to turn that around. I had another post planned, but listening to the daily readings podcast this morning, I found myself challenged almost right out of the box. Do not complain, brothers and sisters, about one another, that you may not be judged. And Take as an example of hardship the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord.

I find myself caught these days between the call to self-emptying that is central to the faith and the wisdom of interpersonal relationships which tells us that healthy relationships cannot exist when one party is suppressing her hurts, because that will only lead to resentment and, eventually, division.

Basically, I find myself caught in a spiritual/emotional tug-of-war between “I am called to give way to everyone else” and “I have a right and in fact a duty to assert myself when I am hurt.”

So today I would like you to talk to me–via combox, via Facebook, or even via email–and tell me how you bring these two seemingly irreconcilable truths into harmony.

No Easy Answers