A Round of Resentment

I suppose that no matter how hard you try to give each child unique and personal experiences, it’s inevitable that they will eventually perceive the differences, and get resentful. From day one, we’ve tried to make sure that all the noise associated with Down syndrome didn’t overshadow Alex’s position in the family. Christian takes him…

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The Path to Talking

I would never have guessed it, but the path to talking lies beyond the land of drinking through a straw. In the early stages of introducing Julianna to the cup, we learned that sippy cups are Bad For Children.  They promote improper use of the tongue, chewing…I don’t remember the whole story; we had too much…

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Of the Importance of Words

Words. We use them, stumble over them, repeat them, misuse them, throw them away like remnants of a shattered plate, without ever realizing how priceless they are, how indispensable. However well or poorly we use them, whatever language we speak or write, words are the fundamental building block of human interaction. Body language, facial expressions—all…

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Letters to my children, part 1

9/8/09 Dear Alex, You’re crossing a milestone, little man. Last night, I couldn’t yell at you for still lying awake at 10:30. I know very well how it feels to be wound up about tomorrow morning. This morning as we left you at preschool, I wondered how long it will be before school becomes another…

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A time for….

There is a time for everything under the sun, Ecclesiastes says. Late July 2009 in the Basi house is a time for gifts of produce from family members—tomatoes, peppers, cucumbers, corn on the cob—of wild blackberries from our own back yard—and of walking. Yes, I said it, I stand on the rooftop and I shout…

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Alex, meet Dr. Seuss

Lately, I’ve developed a new appreciation for “Green Eggs and Ham.” Have you ever done something so many times that you end up having a physical reaction to it? As if somewhere deep in your chest, your body has actually dug its heels into the ground and said, “I will not read it, Sam I…

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Standing at the Precipice

Amazing, how long it takes to write 97 words. Ten days of near-constant brainstorming, while driving, washing dishes, walking, putting kids to bed, lying awake, showering… And that’s a quick write, for me. But it’s done now, and I get to go on to the fun part—writing out the musical arrangement.                                                                          *** I spent…

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Color My World

The last couple of months I’ve been starting to focus on colors with Julianna. At 2 ½, it seems really tardy. This is the constant waffling you do as a parent of a child with special needs: is she there yet? Am I pushing too hard? Am I pushing hard enough? Anyway, I decided to…

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Six Months

In six months, Julianna will exit First Steps and enter the public schools. It sounds like a long time, especially relative to her age: two and a half. But it’s not. The urgency in the way I view her development has really ratcheted up in the last month or two. Even before Julianna got sick,…

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WhyI Love Bonkers

I want to follow up yesterday’s post about unstructured play by saying how totally awesome Going Bonkers is. For those who aren’t familiar with this type of place, it is a three-story indoor jungle gym. But not just a jungle gym. It’s a jungle gym, bounce house, swingset, slide all in one. A perfect place…

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