Easy/Hard

Why is it so easy to see or hear one detail and leap to the worst possible conclusion about a person’s motivations? Why is it so easy to give our past hurts permission to control our present reactions, and block out reason when it urges moderation? Why is it so easy to skip over grief…

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Consent is NOT Sexy

“Consent Is Sexy.” That’s what the t shirt said. And clearly, the woman wearing thought it was a good slogan. I do not. First of all, I have to preface my comments by saying: I get it. The state of relations between men and women sucks. The way we talk to each other sucks. The way…

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The Way We Talk To Each Other Matters

In the spring and early summer of 1994, I was a sophomore in college. I spent the late semester gnashing my teeth about who got which solo parts in the orchestra, and my summer working on the farm. I was aware enough of the world to know something awful was going on in a country…

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