Last night, we spoke to the parish Confirmation class about the sacrament of marriage and, by extension, marital sexuality. At the end, we asked for questions, and we got this one: “You talked about the three things that cause the most marriage breakups. What are the three things that a marriage has to have to…
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Family Time
This year, Christian and I decided to make some New Years Resolutions for our marriage. I had suggested this before, but he resisted last year, fearing (correctly) that I had an agenda. And because I knew he was correct, I also knew I couldn’t force the issue. So this year when I brought it up…
Read MoreWhat A Marriage Needs
Lately it’s become clear to me how often men and women willfully misunderstand each other. A discussion about love, marriage and dividing household responsibilities devolved into an argument about whether socks on the floor constitute a deal-breaker. I was shocked at the speed with which rational thought turned into “men are from Mars, women are…
Read MoreWhen Good Intentions Go Awry
I prepared for this for weeks. I mean it. Weeks. Notes in my calendar. Detailed reading. Brainstorming. It was an online contest that gave you the chance to put your novel in front of thirteen agents at one time—and more importantly, this was not their fathoms-deep slush pile; this was a chance for them to…
Read MoreThe View From A High Place
Every now and again on the journey of life, it’s like you come to a high place, and as you stand on the crest of that hill, the panorama of your life spreads before you in the low places, stretching 364 degrees. The only part you can’t see is the future, a narrow sliver of…
Read MoreCome Away With Me
For the first time in our five years as parents, we left the kids with my parents and took a weekend away. We flew to Tampa on Friday for a wedding, and after a bit of a rough start, we felt our way back into coupledom. Bonnie was passing by on its eastbound, spill-cleanup-disrupting run,…
Read MoreBeadwork (or: the origin of motherhood)
It hangs in the the closet, tucked in the back with all the other clothes I don’t wear anymore, flowing concert black and high school prom red… Like another of my blog friends, I, too, like to pull it out and put it on once in a while, as my mother did when we were…
Read MoreOf Husbands on Father’s Day
Father & Daughter Originally uploaded by Enigma Photos Okay, ladies, I’ll keep this short and sweet. How did you celebrate Mother’s Day, and what do you have planned for Father’s Day? There is a tremendous inequality in the way we approach these two holidays, and the guys get the short shrift.…
Read MoreA Change of Acoustics
[picapp align=”none” wrap=”false” link=”term=wedding+gown&iid=226380″ src=”0222/02586eb3-14ad-4891-80f2-a9195ef3a446.jpg?adImageId=13072607&imageId=226380″ width=”337″ height=”506″ /] The day was not off to a promising start. My three little angels had had me up eight times in seven hours. And instead of sleeping in, they woke up before I managed to accomplish anything in my early-morning work time. And they couldn’t pick a low-stress…
Read More50 (the magic number)
Part One: Fifty seconds. Ears popping, rising ninety-five floors above overtired children, train schedules, bad bus directions and the guy on the street corner screaming about the end of the world. And at the end of it, the doors opened on this: It was our tenth anniversary dinner, six months late, the first of…
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Kathleen M. Basi 