Advent. It’s a time of new beginning, a time of expectation of great things. I want to be renewed, God, but I’m so worn down right now, I’m having trouble being thankful, despite all my efforts to adjust my attitude to match the holiday we just celebrated.
At times like these, I am so painfully aware of my own weakness, my own brokenness. Yes, I enjoyed Christmas shopping with Christian yesterday…but I’ve spent so much of the last few days not feeling good. Why, oh why won’t my body go on and adjust to this stupid metformin? It’s worse when I don’t sleep—so much worse. And what is going on with Nicholas? How can a child go from sleeping peacefully from 7:45p.m. to 6:30 a.m. to waking up six times a night? How can a child suddenly decide that he isn’t going to sleep at all, day or night, for longer than an hour at a time? Doesn’t it stand to reason that at some point, he’s just got to crash? Why, oh why isn’t he reaching that point?
I’m tired, God, and whenever I’m tired, the metformin reaction is so much worse. And we’re at the end of Christian’s vacation now, and I feel more worn down than when we started. This should have been a week to relax and renew. Instead I feel more than ever like I’m scrabbling at the edge of the cliff. I haven’t even tried to write this week…I’ve barely kept up on my blog. On this side of Thanksgiving, all those January deadlines seem a whole lot closer. How can I be stretched so thin when I’ve accomplished so little?
Well, I know the answer to that one. Family visits are enjoyable, but they are also frequently stressful. There’s the disruption to the routine, and the staying up late, the lack of down time, the extra noise, the kids’ excitement and subsequent refusal to sleep…though that still doesn’t explain Nicholas’s lingering agitation.
And why isn’t he feeling better, anyway? It’s been three weeks since Nicholas has acted like himself. Is it that rash? Is the rash indicative of something else? Something more than penicillin reaction or food reaction?
I keep thinking that by the time my third child is 8 months old, I ought to have some idea how to problem solve these things. But the reality is that things just keep getting more complicated. With the first two, I could stick them in their rooms and teach them to put themselves back to sleep in the night by just closing the door and refusing to pick them up. But Nicholas is sharing a room with Julianna. I can’t just walk out and let him cry himself back to sleep. But I want to be done with night nursing, and the last two nights, he’s nursed and still been awake! If even nursing doesn’t put him back to sleep, where does that leave us?
And he is so clingy. I don’t know how much longer I can take it. He’s so crabby all the time! Angelic, smiley, as long as he’s being held, or if I’m sitting on the floor beside him…but my gosh, if I go to grab a pencil, he starts shrieking!
I want to feel better, God. And I know that at least part of it has to come from me…but I feel so powerless right now. So helpless. So angry and overwhelmed. And guilty for feeling so. After all, I chose to have my kids close together; I feel like I need to be a model of with-it-ness. A bad day is one thing, but a month?
Stir up your power, O Lord, and come to dwell in me. Please. In my darkness, I really need to feel the light of your presence, leading me toward the dawn.
Oh Kate, I will pray for you. It’s hard to be a mom sometimes!
Oh Kathleen, I have tears in my eyes. I’m so sorry. I will pray for you, that God will give you wisdom and strength. Motherhood is the biggest job on the planet and such an important one…hang in there, this too shall pass.
A thought is to sling Nicholas to your body (if your back can stand it), sounds like he is having some separation anxiety–my daughter was like that the first year of her life and it was exhausting…I wish I’d have known about strapping her to me so she’d be happy and quiet allowing me to get a few things done.
Regardless, I’m with you Sis and praying for you…Jodi
Kathleen,
I am sorry you are having a tough time. I will pray for you.
Could it be something as simple as teething? Just a thought… that’s usually when mine stopped sleeping well. Tylenol or motrin usually worked well for my kids
I keep thinking it might be teething…we gave him ibuprofin at bedtime last night. But this morning he also woke up with a very runny nose. Yay. We just got rid of the last one…
Well, he (sort of) slept through last night…at least, I didn’t have to get up. So 1) God answered my prayers to help me feel better, 2) God answered my prayers by sending me you guys. I’m still tired, and he still woke up last night, but at least he put himself back down, and at least I’m able to work today.
All of us moms can relate Kathleen. I’ll say a prayer for you too. Sometimes these things just feel like they’re snowballing and all you can do is tread water. Hang in there and it’ll pass…