1. A friend shared this C.S. Lewis quote yesterday: “Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither!” — C.S. Lewis. I have to admit that my first reaction was a bit of resistance. It seems to smack of that notion that good behavior = prosperity, and if you’re poor, it’s your own fault for being a bad person. I have a problem with this. But on further reflection, I think the quote is true–though not at a deeper level of truth than the obvious one. Because when we have our sights set on Heaven, the things of Earth don’t seem so important. So suddenly everything you have becomes exactly what you want. In other words, you have the world.
2. Just for fun, here’s a video montage of dancing in the movies, set to Kenny Loggins’ “Footloose”.
3. Do you ever find yourself mesmerized by the sound of the insects, like I do? Have you ever spent fiteen minutes trying to separate out each individual sound, and wondered which animals make which noises? Well, here’s a place to start: someone recorded twenty individual species of insects and put them on the web, with their pictures.
4. Did you know that when you are in your thirties, your umbilical cord can begin to grow again? Does anyone other than me find that just a bit stomach-turning? (I won’t bore you with how I discovered that factoid, but suffice it to say it was NOT about ME.)
5. Space freaks, unite! Boeing’s working on taking us to the International Space Station! (Note to self: time to start saving money. For me and for Alex. Our day is coming.)
6-7. I’ve been debating over a week what to do with this. Last week, my post on the mommy wars hit WP’s front page–a little taste of the big time. I spent all day moderating comments, including one that went to the spam folder. Only it’s not exactly spam…exactly. More like an angry, vitriolic essay on how rotten motherhood is. I want to go ahead and post it here, and get your take on it, because I’m still a bit kerflummoxed.
So you ended up being just a mother.
Just another mother, like a chimp, a cow, an elephant, a whale, just another mother, like an insect, or an octopus, or a worm. Just another sad mother.
Your kids will not thank you, your husband will not like you, your own mother will pity you for making her own same mistake.
Just another mother.
For a moment of frenzy, of uterine voracity, irrational and irreversible, you destroyed your body, your beauty, and your own intellect.
Parental-brain-atrophy-syndrome, where your brain biologically adjusts to the need of your infants, descending at their own subhuman level, with just one dimension, food, or perhaps two dimensions, food and feces.
You left your ambitions, your achievements, your potentials outside your life and outside the lives of those who really loved, only to become a receptacle of an unknown body of an unknown person that never will be yours, and to whom you will never belong. Strangers united in a pool of blood and dirt.
And dirt has become your life, and your life has become dirt. Urine, remains of food, excrements, diapers, vacuum cleaners, old soap, crusts, a life of dandruff and diseases, vaccine and lice, high school and drool.
You lost your dignity through your open legs, first inwards and then outwards, first-in-first-out, garbage-in-garbage-out, a boomerang of boredom.
Do you remember who you were?
Do you realize your loss?
Nobody chooses prison voluntarily, except for mothers, except for you.
You chose the life of a slave in a cavern of dirt.
People around you, who know that you are just another mother, do have compassion for you, but no respect. They know all about your emptiness, your pain, your despair, all dressed in the robes of a virgin-mary.
And a virgin-mary you are not, because mary was not a virgin, and you are not a mary.
You were manipulated into just another life wasted on the heap of trash of a lost humanity dedicated to popular procreation and proletarian proliferation, to please the leaders of a domain of plebeians.
The world lost you, and you lost the world.
Good bye, sad mothers, good bye, old cows, with dried-out utters and distorted hips, good bye, and so alone you all will die.
Any perspectives on this? A week later, I’m still speechless.
I can only feel sadness and sorrow for a person who is so lonely and out of touch with family and God as to write those comments. I know you try to stay non-political in your blog, but this is an example of a certain mindset out there in our society which hates everything good about our nation and what many of us are trying to preserve–familiies, marriage, and above all faith and trust in God. This person (and others with this mindset), need our prayers.
Dad
My husbands umbilical cord started growing again when he was a couple months old – I mentioned it to my pediatrician and apparently it is genetic for that to happen – and really rare.
I can’t even imagine how unhappy a person would have to be to compose a comment like that. That’s just so sad to me.
I can’t imagine what happened to create such a feeling of being unloved and unrespectful of what God has created. I’m certainly praying they find the love of God in their life.
#2 ~ Fun, thanks!
#4 ~ Weird!
#6 ~ Sad ~ I think you were right to ‘sit’ on this for a couple of days
Whoever the author of that comment is — wow, they need a lot of prayers, and also, probably someone to talk to about the traumatic story that caused that diatribe. just wow.
Umbilical cord = weird. 🙂
The comment was so saddening to me – I want to go give the little-kid version of the author a giant hug and bake them cookies. 😦 It breaks my heart to think about what they must have gone through regarding mothers and mother figures in their life to feel the way they do? Maybe they were abandoned? Orphaned? Abused? Maybe they have given up a child? Or aborted one? Sad, sad, sad. I’m praying for them.
Thank you for the umbilical information. #facepalm. I now have a new irrational fear, and another reason to savor being 20-something.
Also, I am totally on board with Boeing sending me to space, particularly if the plane looks like a TARDIS. And I get a sonic screwdriver.
Sad, I agree. How did that person even happen upon a blog like yours?
I can’t believe that someone actually took the time to write that. I could probably write a book in response, dissecting each piece, but I won’t waste my energy because it’s clear that someone who feels that strongly about something and is that delusional, is not going to be swayed by anything that I say here. I will respond to one part though. The part about how we left our amibitions, achievements, and potential behind. One, no one can take away the things I have achieved. Two, I still have ambitions and plenty of potential even though I am a mother. I mean, think about if you didn’t have Julianna in your life. You probably wouldn’t be fighting as hard as you are for equality amongst people with disabilities. And for me, if not for Cameron, I wouldn’t be doing so much to raise awareness for autism. My life is 20 times better with my kids in it than it ever was without them. I will not die alone, I will die with the love of my children surrounding me. What will this person have?
Wow. Could this be a bitter, lonely mother whose kids have abandoned her because she is too hard to be around, someone expecting to be rewarded by the world instead of by God?
When we try to please others we’re left empty. When we try to please God we are filled.
You didn’t give us YOUR thoughts on it, Kathleen. You’ve had way more time to think about it. You must have some!
That comment seems to have been written by an outcast. Sometimes they just need to step back and survey what drove them to write that.
As for the others, they were great!
I’m sorry, I meant to write voluntary outcast, they don’t like the world and keep looking at all the bad things while seldom noticing the good.
I do think it’s possible that this was written to provoke responses, and for no other reason. It is so far along the spectrum of bitterness that it seems calculated to provoke. My main thought is: With this view of parenthood, how does the writer expect the human race to continue????
I guess I would also say, as a matter of caution, that it’s easy to read into this spewing of vitriol, and make assumptions about the writer. But assumptions is what we most need to avoid, in general.
Wow, that is horrifying. I say hit delete and don’t look back. I deal with a slice of this when I write my monthly newspaper column — the atheists come out in full force. Granted they aren’t as evil as this person, but still, at first it really bothered me. Now I just laugh and look forward to what they have to say.
I try to always read through my spam folder, so that comment struck me as suspicious since it isn’t related to your post at all. Turns out it *is* spam.
http://rasjacobson.wordpress.com/2010/06/30/a-thank-you-note-to-ed/
http://diapersanddivinity.com/2010/03/22/my-defining-moment-no-really/
So at least you can know that the person doesn’t care enough to actually read your thoughts and post a real reply. Who knows what the point is.
Rae–that is very helpful. I wondered if it was something like that, but I didn’t want to take the time to go look it up. Thanks for doing my research for me. 😉
My goodness, that comment! To be honest, it strikes me as very, very sad. Someone who seems sad, perhaps saddened by her own choices, or her own relationship with her mother maybe? It doesn’t seem like the kind of thing you’d ever write someone if you felt fulfilled and content yourself.
That was an interesting comment in #1! Definitely thought-provoking. Very true that if we have our sights truly set on things in heaven, things on earth feel less important. I struggle to maintain that perspective. (Or, worse, and more often, I don’t struggle.)