I’m qualified to write on that topic, don’t you think? 🙂 Today I’m sending you to a guest post I wrote. I’ve talked before about how the experience of infertility convinced me that planning our family naturally was so much more respectful of who I am as a human being in general, and a woman in particular. But…
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Things To Ponder Before Saying “I Do”
Please help me welcome a guest blogger today. Most of us are married, but it never hurts to remind ourselves of the where we came from as we grow and change. Sometimes we need to find those earlier parts of ourselves to make a marriage healthier and holier. So without further ado, here is Emily…
Read MoreConfessions of a Wistful Romantic
I dreamed I kissed a man who was not my husband. It was one of those dreamy, romantic, revelatory kisses that squeezes your chest and leaves you breathless. It was amazing…and then horrifying. How could I face the man to whom I had promised forever? Did I really have to tell him? After all, there…
Read MoreWhat I Have Seen With My Own Eyes (a 7QT post)
Lately I’ve been enjoying the mental challenge of writing to a prompt while remaining true to my essential message. Or at least, attempting to do so. (Faithful readers, you’ve been quiet lately. I miss you! It makes me wonder if I’m not as successful as I think I am!) Anyway, Mama Kat’s Writers Workshop used…
Read MoreA History of Anxiety: Conclusion
Part 1: Origins Part 2: The Onset of Freaking Out Part 3: Engagement I was pretty low-key about graduating with my master of music degree. I knew that now, I was going home to dive into the last three months’ worth of wedding preparations. And that was a much, much bigger deal than a…
Read MoreChores, Sex and Marriage
This is one of those days where I’m going to be very frank on a very personal topic. My reading list lately has been long on the heavy stuff—like Bad Mother, by Ayelet Waldman. This book came highly recommended by several people I respect. I’ll have more to say about it later, but today I…
Read More“I was there when you got engaged…”
It was September of 1995 when Christian appeared in my life. (Actually, that’s not entirely accurate…we did meet, sort of, three years earlier.) Newly recommitted to the faith of my childhood, I joined a choir at the Newman Center. One of the first events of that semester was a liturgy for which we joined forces…
Read MoreThree Keys to Successful Marriage
Last night, we spoke to the parish Confirmation class about the sacrament of marriage and, by extension, marital sexuality. At the end, we asked for questions, and we got this one: “You talked about the three things that cause the most marriage breakups. What are the three things that a marriage has to have to…
Read MoreFamily Time
 This year, Christian and I decided to make some New Years Resolutions for our marriage. I had suggested this before, but he resisted last year, fearing (correctly) that I had an agenda. And because I knew he was correct, I also knew I couldn’t force the issue. So this year when I brought it up…
Read MoreWhat A Marriage Needs
Lately it’s become clear to me how often men and women willfully misunderstand each other. A discussion about love, marriage and dividing household responsibilities devolved into an argument about whether socks on the floor constitute a deal-breaker. I was shocked at the speed with which rational thought turned into “men are from Mars, women are…
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Kathleen M. Basi 