My Strong-willed Child Comes Into His Own

It’s a beautiful thing to see your child getting his bearings in his own life, getting his feet set solidly on firm ground, and begin to explore. Nicholas has always been a child with a really strong desire to be close to his parents—close in a physical way. He always wants to be touching me,…

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Seeking the Best (instead of expecting the worst)

I was on the hunt for little boy dress shoes when I discovered the tight bundle of clothes wadded up and shoved behind a storage bin in the boys’ closet. In that bundle I found a pair of khakis and a school uniform fleece that I had given to Nicholas less than twenty-four hours before…

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The Hazards of Living In A Musical Family, and other Updates on my Babies

Alex After the LEGO movie a couple of years ago, Alex started singing “Everything is awesome” all.the.time. Woe was me. Then, knowing I loathed the song even more than I loathed the movie, he started teasing me by singing “Percy Jackson ro-ocks!” on the same tune. Then he got tired of Julianna’s obsession with Frozen,…

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Parents, Kids, and the Other R-word: “Respect”

You know that thing about kids? That thing where they act like angelic beings, floating above a river of serenity and sweetness, any time they’re in public, and then as soon as the rest of the world turns its back, they grow horns and a forked tail? Yeah, that. Six people watched my children while…

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Family Business, Round 2: Julianna, Nicholas, Michael

More family tidbits today, to hold my place until we get back from the Adirondacks. Up today: Julianna, Nicholas, and Michael. Julianna Oh, Julianna. She has been showing interest in Barbie dolls and imaginative play at last. But it’s causing me a little trouble, because I can’t figure out how much she understands about reality…

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Nicholas Asks About Adam And Eve

When I was a freshman in college, I was required to take a writing intensive class. Being kind of stupid, I assumed all the classes were the same, so I just picked the one that fit my schedule best. And thus I spent my first semester of college sitting in a classroom with a guy…

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Why You Should Never Play “Nurse” With A Child Who Wields A Light Saber

On the tail end of a three-way after-school light saber duel, Nicholas runs up to me. “Mommy, will you play a game with me?” Stifle a groan. “What kind of game?” “I’ll be the nurse, and you come tell me what’s wrong and I’ll fix it.” “Okay.” “My office is up here.” “Okay.” He climbs…

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Soul Searching My Way To A Better Relationship With My Strong-Willed Child

When I finally got myself under control, I got control of my relationship with my strong-willed child too.

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